vendredi, octobre 20, 2006

is it possible to find someone who's world will only evolve entirely around you?

People have a tendency get clingy when they are in a relationship. Why? Probably because of object permanence or separation-anxiety. (go, kaplan!) Whatever the reason is, we have to get over that cycle of clinging to our boyfriends, lover, hot papa, s.o.'s, whatever love object you have. i realized that being in a relationship ,(take note: not being in love. these are two different things)is like holding grains of sand in your hand. If you squeeze you hands too tight, the sand will spill. If you open your hands, the wind will blow it away. But if we try to hold it steady in our hands, it will stay.

The difficulty lies in knowing that you're being to much of something, and having the courage to do something about it.

6 commentaires:

marge a dit…

we've talked about this na di ba? posible! dapat lang, younger fafa. haha! go madam auring! ;p

empanada a dit…

you can never really enjoy sand by itself...unless you have a whole beach and water is out there..

on a serious note, you can try not to hold it too tight or too loose...but you can only hope that you don't lose as much as you hope you can keep.

soulfoolchic a dit…

I dont think it is right to even find someone like what you're looking for, nor become a person like that.

We need someone who can be there even if we dont see or feel him physically. And hope that this person accept us for who we are and also teach us to become a person who not only "see" but also "feel", without having to be clingy.

Will a dit…

i have a friend who's ultra clingy to her boyfriend.

when im hanging around her boyfriend, he's really really happy because finally he's out of her suffocating reach

Tiara a dit…

Clingy. We cling because once we lose something, we wonder why the hell did we not hold on tighter. ;)

Anonyme a dit…

naks, i liked your grains of sand analogy, hehe.

i havent been in a serious relationship. huling beses akong nagka-'chever', nainis ako, kasi hindi pa kami, she's already showing signs of the trifecta - needy, clingy and manipulative, hehe. oh well.. =p